What is the difference between falling in love and loving?

to trust

your emotions,

to be carried away

with the adventure

of falling in love.

For five and half months

let your hormones lead you

to that enchanting place

where feelings feel more magical,

living so intense

even realists become artists

in this exaggerated state.

You are blind

to anything and anyone

except your beloved one

no end to this wonder

is imaginable.

In the first flush of passion

there is a glow

about you,

suddenly you feel

and you are

very attractive,

invincible

and magical.

Enjoy every minute

of that special time

when everything is possible,

but be aware

the time is ticking by

when the stage

of rose coloured glasses

ends

and you suddenly see

the world

in an ordinary way

again,

it causes quite a shock,

the disappointment

can even make

the person of your desire

undesirable.

Have you been stung by the love bug?

Living in a real world

with a romantic illusion

a false impression,

a fantasy?

Your inability to think

of anything but...

Your heart beats fast

each time you see

wanting only to do

what pleases

and listening to every word

of 'the only one'.

'The only one',

who appears to have qualities

you think you lack,

who reminds you of someone

so close

you once feel secure with

in your childhood home.

'The only one',

you hear about

in countless love songs,

romantic poems

and social ideals.

You believe

in order to be happy

you need to find your mate

to feel complete.

When you come back

crashing to earth

at a thudding rate

with eyes bruised

rose coloured glasses

smashed

heart broken

you become

disillusional,

emotionally guarded

even cynical,

fully aware

the perfect person

of your dreams

does not exist.

Once you realize,

you are alone,

but you are safe,

you start to praise yourself,

value yourself

and love yourself

as a complete human being.

Love is not actually something,

we get from outside world,

like inner joy,

sexual energy,

creativity and spirituality,

love is part of our make-up,

a natural birthright

and always available.

You carry love with you

everywhere you go,

That is love affair with life,

you can hold onto forever.

It will not let you down

as people can,

because none of us

is perfect

and cannot be responsible

for the happiness of others.

Love will creep up,

again and again,

when you least expect it.

Allow yourself to dream,

take a ride on wings of love.

You are not desperate

anymore

and needy,

you are alive,

enjoying your own

self-loving journey.

You will know,

the real love,

turning inwards

as much as out,

shares and doesn't demand,

given freely

enjoyed by both.

Friendly,

respectful

and full of joy.

Once you feel the real love,

let it develop

in its own time,

for like a fine wine,

true feelings

need nurturing and space.

True lovers know

each of them

is complete

and perfect in themselves.

They don't need each other

to feel fullfilled

just life is better when shared.

Falling in love

is just a dream.

Loving is everything.